Sometimes, it’s not difficult to decide what to say if you learn that someone is accepted into hospice. There is a tendency to avoid those who are suffering and to keep a distance. But remember that life has to live, and we all require others. They’re still your family members, your friends and acquaintances.
Vickie Wacaster is a Vickie Wacaster, Patient and Hospice Advocate with Aveanna Hospice (formerly Comfort Care Hospice)
But, be aware that every hospice patient and their loved ones will face this challenge in a unique way. Certain patients and families will be able to discuss their health and issues openly, whereas others won’t. If you do visit them, you must be an attentive listener, courteous and follow their advice. Also, while visiting make sure you are aware of the duration. It may be beneficial to keep short your appointments than otherwise, however, if your health and theirs will permit you to visit them.
Additionally, you should avoid the temptation to teach or establish expectations on how to handle the circumstances. If you have to comfort someone in hospice or their family members, assure them that you love them. Don’t place the responsibility of comforting them or delivering your wishes on them. Even though you are concerned and believe that you are walking with them, it’s their journey and they are entitled to go about it in their own way.
Also Do not be upset or be irritated if telephone calls or visits aren’t as frequent. We all know that there are occasions that a family member or patient require a break as well as uninterrupted rest. Be considerate of this. If you are unable to call or visit to make a call, you can mail cards, but even if it’s a generic card, be sure that you personalize it by adding an emotional message.
It is fine to grieve with those who are suffering If it is appropriate and following their instructions It is acceptable to be jolly with people who are struggling. Help them with the chores of daily life by cooking meals and then delivering food to them. You could also give your time and effort to cleaning and laundry, grocery shopping and mowing their lawns or weeding their gardens. These are all tasks that require attention and will show that you are concerned and eager to help with practical ways.
If you’d like more information on hospice do not hesitate to call the hospice you prefer or call me to set up an appointment to talk about the programs, services and benefits of care provided by hospice.
“You are not a person until you’ve done something for someone else who will never be able to repay you.” John Bunyan
-” Vickie C. Wacaster is a hospice patient and advocacy with Aveanna Hospice.
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